Too Busy For Sex?
When I used to dream about marriage, I never dreamed that “we are too busy to have sex” would be a part of the equation. Instead I dreamed of a life where sex happened on a daily basis. I thought that was normal, but I never had the guts to ask anyone how often did they have sex.
Needless to say there were some things that I didn’t count on like:
I don’t believe in making excuses for the poor choices that people make, but realistically speaking you have to make sure your partner is sexually fulfilled because as soon as you don’t, that is when Satan will come tip toeing in, and with it, he’ll bring temptation that grows.
Corinthians 7:2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
So don’t let the “we don’t have time” excuse open up the door to marital dissatisfaction. There is enough time in the day, you just have to chose to use it wisely.
What are you doing when you get home from work? Are you spazzing out in front of the TV, or are you making time for your family?
What would happen if you woke up 30 minutes earlier and spent it with your spouse? Would it ruin your entire day to miss 30 minutes of sleep, or would it enrich your day to start it off with your better half?
Do you plan your time in advanced, or do you just go with the flow? Do you know that by planning in advanced you can find time that you didn’t know existed.
I don’t mean break out a schedule and write down “sex days”, but plan a date night or two every month. See if you can schedule a day off together. If you have kids, plan in advanced when they’ll be away at grandmas or on a school trip so that you two can spend time alone.
We are all busy and we have have commitments. But saying “we are too busy for sex” is really saying “I choose not to plan my time wisely and I really don’t like to prioritize”.
May 26 2008 | Family Life and Marriage Tips | No Comments »