I’m sure when you were younger your parents tried to teach you that a little kindness goes a long way.
Be kind to your siblings and they’ll listen to you.
Be kind to your relatives and it will make the evening go much more smoothly.
Be kind to your classmates because school is for learning and growing.
Why should this notion stop just because we grow up?
Are you kind to your spouse? I mean do you really make a conscious effort to be kind?
Do you listen with kindness when they are worried, but you are busy and tired?
Do you respond with kind words when you are annoyed with situations?
Do you show acts of kindness when it’s unexpected?
Showing kindness can do great things for your marriage. It creates an environment of closeness, security, and happiness; all of which lead to great times in the bedroom.
Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness
June 19 2008 | Communication and Marriage Tips | No Comments »
When I used to dream about marriage, I never dreamed that “we are too busy to have sex” would be a part of the equation. Instead I dreamed of a life where sex happened on a daily basis. I thought that was normal, but I never had the guts to ask anyone how often did they have sex.
Needless to say there were some things that I didn’t count on like:
Jobs with long hours
Long commutes
Stressful work situations
And just plain being tired
I don’t believe in making excuses for the poor choices that people make, but realistically speaking you have to make sure your partner is sexually fulfilled because as soon as you don’t, that is when Satan will come tip toeing in, and with it, he’ll bring temptation that grows.
Corinthians 7:2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
So don’t let the “we don’t have time” excuse open up the door to marital dissatisfaction. There is enough time in the day, you just have to chose to use it wisely.
What are you doing when you get home from work? Are you spazzing out in front of the TV, or are you making time for your family?
What would happen if you woke up 30 minutes earlier and spent it with your spouse? Would it ruin your entire day to miss 30 minutes of sleep, or would it enrich your day to start it off with your better half?
Do you plan your time in advanced, or do you just go with the flow? Do you know that by planning in advanced you can find time that you didn’t know existed.
I don’t mean break out a schedule and write down “sex days”, but plan a date night or two every month. See if you can schedule a day off together. If you have kids, plan in advanced when they’ll be away at grandmas or on a school trip so that you two can spend time alone.
We are all busy and we have have commitments. But saying “we are too busy for sex” is really saying “I choose not to plan my time wisely and I really don’t like to prioritize”.
May 26 2008 | Family Life and Marriage Tips | No Comments »